'Why do many young females nowadays prefer to be side chicks to high-value men rather than marry an average man?'

'How 'do masculine' females affect relationships?' 'What attracts women to men, and how can men keep their attraction?'

These are only three of the questions posed by author Jacob Aliet in his latest book, 'Unplugged.'

Aliet's statistics, which claim that by 2030 A.D., 45 percent of prime working-age women (ages 25 to 44) will be single, up from 40 percent in 2018, are even lower than the survey cited by Uhuru Kenyatta on Madaraka Day, which claimed that by then, 60 percent of Kenyan women may be single by age 45.

Let us first place the scarcity caused by death, or widows, outside the scope of our discussion.
Aliet contends that we now live in a femicentric world in which popular media panders to women without regard for what is acceptable or useful to society, despite the fact that social media offers women unlimited access to endless attention and an easy source of approval.

"These trends have resulted in a fall in marriage rates, an increase in divorce rates, more single mothers, and unrealistic marriage expectations, particularly among women," Aliet claims.

The first section of the book then delves into popular and factual anecdotal anecdotes, most of which occurred during the Covid-19 time, when domestic violence and divorce rates in Kenya skyrocketed (not to mention teenage births, but that is outside the scope of 'Unplugged.')

Jacob Aliet tells the typical narrative of 'Denno and Achieng,' in which a soldier, for example, spends his pay to educate a plain country lady, only for her to kick him out once she has a university degree, so she can get a 'better' guy.

This also brings to mind the 'famous' Fibi and the Ksh 620,000 that had a man sobbing on social media.

Or the well-known story about 'Quan and Ciku,' in which the two are happy together.

Until he loses his work, at which point she begins meeting other men and eventually kicks him out (while keeping his child); nonetheless, when he subsequently gets better employment, Ciku begins sidling up to him, using the tot as 'child-mail,' and tries her hardest to ruin his new connection.

Aliet also uses the firing of radio celebrity Shaffie Weru (and DJ Joe Mfalme) from Kiss FM radio a few years ago as a prime example of the silencing of male opinion' in this new world of local and global 'Femi-centrism,' using the recently departed bro Kevin Samuels as the prism for many of his saucy arguments.

This has given rise to movements such as 'MGTOW,' or 'Men Going Their Own Way.'

But, according to Aliet, women are neither good nor wicked.

"They are just an excellent evolutionary product, and men must comprehend Female Nature in order to navigate life and have good relationships with the women in their lives, who will then inspire, comfort, and provide them with the means (babies) to establish their own legacy."

'Toxic feminists'
He blames the concept of a gynocentric social order on poisonous feminists who 'vilify, cancel, and banish anything that does not facilitate the feminist agenda,' and cites Will Smith, with all his simping to his theatrical wife Jada Pinkett-Smith, as the archetypal 'beta guy wimp.'

Aliet echoes the recently departed Kevin Samuels' grim warning to women who refuse to settle that they will 'die alone' (with a lot of cats for company).

In this 'Unplugged' book, he writes of 'female dudes,' with the KS acronym of 'DUDES - Delusional Ungrateful in-Denial Entitled Selfish' women, many of whom are successful career women.

"Female dudes in the masculine frame may make great career women, but because they assert (and never submit), compete but are never cooperative, they are incapable of sustaining a marriage; and the High-Value Men they seek, having built their own boxes of success, seek beautiful, feminine women who support their vision, not partners to re-frame it."

Aliet describes the female dynamic of 'frenemies,' in which the frustration of single or divorced women causes them to either pursue their BFF's boyfriend or "mislead her into leaving her marriage."

And this is only the first quarter of a book that claims to teach us (guys) "things our elders did not tell us."

Readers can purchase the book at Nuria Bookstore on Moi Avenue.