Sharing everything with the one we care about is a sign of a truly intimate relationship. And this is exactly how it should be.

However, if there is even the slightest hint of disrespect towards the one you love in the messages you send, keep in mind that their brain will focus on that and ignore everything else. That is just human nature!

That being said, I am a firm believer in complete transparency and honesty.

• Too little honesty is harmful.
• Too much honesty and openness can also be harmful.
• There's also honesty with unintended consequences.

However, having someone who can point out your flaws is extremely beneficial. That is how we evolve and grow — and probably the most enjoyable aspect of a relationship — GROWTH!

Some things, like the list below, belong in the cabinet labeled "Things You Shouldn't Say To Your Significant Other," alongside the "Ex-Files."

If you say any of the following things, depending on how you say them, your obituary may be published...lol.

Certain things are better left unsaid in the grand scheme of things!

So here you have it:

• Any sentence that begins with "you never" or "always"
• Any sentence that diminishes their ability, work, family, or education.
• You are extremely fortunate to be with me.
• You remind me of your mother/father (due to bad family history), and I've already said "I love you."
• You're too beautiful to be intelligent (Dear Men, don't say it).
• Don't make fun of their previous relationships. Ever!
• In the presence of your partner, never flirt with strangers.
• Don't constantly extol your male or female best friend.
• Do you dislike his or her family? It's fine. But never tell them this to their face.
• During an argument/fight, do not threaten divorce or breakup.
• Dear men, if your wife/girlfriend asks you, "Am I looking fat?" the answer is NO! Always!

I never loved you in the first place. (If you're angry, you may be tempted to say something like this in order to win the argument.) But this is far from helpful. That is breaking someone's heart. And if you're going out of your way to hurt someone like that, there's something seriously wrong with you.)

Never boast about the attention you receive from others. Never boast about the number of people who have hit on you. No! Do not attempt it! Unless you are so narcissistic and cruel that you want them to reach new levels of insecurity.

You should never tell them that your ex was more entertaining. NEVER say this to them because it makes them feel inadequate.
Ladies, never tell your boyfriend/husband that he is not a "real man."
Don't call him or her childish or immature — no one likes being called that!

Don't make any promises. I'm not going to abandon you. (You can't say this unless you're married, and even then, life is unpredictable.)

"I adore you, but..." Those are deadly words. Whatever follows will cost you more than you want to pay.

In bed, never yell someone else's name.
You look fat in that outfit. Do you mind changing it?
During an argument, never say "I hate you." Just don't say anything. Don't play around with those words.

Your sister is more attractive. Your best friend is lovely. So, when is your sister's next sleeping over? (Dear men, please refrain from saying it) Never insult your girlfriend's best friend in front of her. NEVER, I repeat, NEVER.


Please never tell your partner that anyone else is better than them at anything.

Never criticize something that cannot be changed. Such as their height, size, nose, ears, and so on.

Never take naked pictures without someone's permission.

Never say he or she is a jerk in bed!

That he/she is unappealing (ugly)

Don't call their assets insignificant!

Sometimes, just by being human, we say completely inappropriate things, which are understandable and forgivable.

Everyone has their own set of advantages and disadvantages. We must value the beauty we see in one another.
Highlight the positive aspects of the other person and be gentle and gracious when providing constructive feedback.

 First, compliment, then point out whatever needs to be pointed out. Never tell someone they are wrong in a derogatory tone of voice.

 When someone opens up to you and confides in you about their inner struggles. Please be understanding. Don't accuse, judge, mock, criticize, shame, or label them.

That being said, we should all be open to constructive criticism!

When someone points out their flaws, a genuine, caring, open, compassionate, and healthy person who cares more about growth and the overall well-being of their relationship will not be offended.

If you're with someone who only sings your praises, always saying what you want to hear to make you feel good but never giving you the feedback you need to grow, you're not with a good partner, and neither are you!