
Please help, I love my girlfriend but I'm scared of taking the next step to marry her
- Published By Jedida Barasa For The Statesman Digital
- 3 days ago
Hi Achokis. I’m in my late 30s and still single. I have been in a relationship for the last four years. There’s a lot of pressure from my family members to marry her, they keep asking “when is the wedding?”
I know my girlfriend is also getting impatient with me— I really love her, but fear commitment because of the many stories I hear about many failed marriages and have even seen the same in my family.
Is there any hope and what do I need to do so that my marriage doesn’t fail? Please advise!- Job
Thank you Job for your question. It is good to be honest about your fears. So often, people think that men are scared of committing and nobody ever bothers to know why. Don’t just get married due to societal pressure. We all go through pressure one way or the other.
Human beings are difficult to please. One gets a job and people want you to get a better one. You get a spouse and people place certain expectations on you.
So, do not be baffled by the statement “when is the wedding?” After the wedding they will ask you when you are getting children and then they will have an opinion on how you should raise them.
It is normal to fear committing because of the negative stories you have heard, but who talks about the positive stories? It is true that many marriages are breaking, but it is also true that there are many as well that are thriving today— couples who have been married for long and are happy.
We are not saying that you will never have challenges as a married couple. But it is how you learn how to resolve your conflict and navigate through those challenges that will determine whether your marriage survives or not.
So what do you need to do so that your marriage doesn’t fail? There are no guarantees in life. But there are some things you can do to prepare yourself well in marriage, beginning by working on your conflict resolution and communication skills. You need to hang around couples whose marriages are working to become hopeful. Couples, who despite the many challenges they have faced are still in love with each other.
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