It is said love is blind, and two cannot walk together unless they agree.

These two sayings sound even more real when you look at young men out here openly drawn to older women, and it is not their fault anyway, unless love suddenly stopped being blind.

Dating older women comes with many packages, some emotional, some practical, and others deeply personal.

While society may raise eyebrows, the truth is simple. These relationships are often built on needs, desires, and connections that go beyond age.

Get to know some of the reasons that make our Gen Zs get lost in wamamas.

1. Maturity and experience

Older women often carry a sense of calm that younger men find irresistible.

They are more composed, emotionally balanced, and aware of how life works. For a young man still figuring out his path, this maturity feels like stability.

Conversations flow with depth. Conflicts are handled with logic, not drama.

Decisions are well thought out. This level of experience makes the relationship feel safer and more meaningful.

Instead of chaos, there is guidance. Instead of confusion, there is reassurance. Some, not me, but some men say older women are good in bed. I have no proof.

2. Need for care and healing

Some young men are driven by invisible scars. A difficult childhood, an absent parent, or emotional neglect can create a hunger for affection.

Without even realising it, they seek comfort in someone who feels nurturing and protective.

Older women often provide warmth, patience, and understanding.

The young man feels cared for, listened to, and emotionally held. In many cases, the relationship becomes a safe haven where vulnerability is allowed, and emotional wounds slowly heal.

That is why sometimes you will hear someone say “Nilikutrust kama mamangu,” probably after heartbreak.

3. Financial comfort

Let us be honest. To some young men, money is everything.

Older women are more likely to have stable careers, established businesses, and financial independence. This creates a lifestyle that feels secure and stress-free.

Bills are less of a battlefield. Dates feel relaxed. There is less pressure to prove masculinity through money.

For some, this is an attraction. For others, it is simple survival and comfort in a tough economy.

4. Emotional safety and understanding

Older women are less likely to compete, judge, or belittle.

They understand that young men are still growing, developing, and finding their voice. This creates emotional space.

Mistakes are corrected with wisdom, not insults. Ambitions are supported.

Fears are acknowledged. In this environment, young men feel valued instead of criticised. That emotional safety builds strong and lasting bonds.

Imagine a man who grew up being shouted at, getting beatings like a cat that ate cooking fat that was bought on credit from Mama Kamau’s shop?

5. Freedom from societal pressure

With older women, many young men feel less pressure to impress friends or maintain a public image.

The relationship often exists outside peer influence.

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There is room for honesty, vulnerability, and real connection. Expectations are clearer.

The atmosphere feels less performative and more genuine. This sense of freedom allows the young man to grow emotionally and mentally.

Young men dating older women is not always rebellion or trend chasing.

It is often about stability, healing, understanding, and emotional fulfilment. Love does not consult society before choosing where to rest.

At the end of the day, attraction follows connection. And sometimes, what a young heart truly needs is not youth, but wisdom.