Oga Obinna: Marriage Cannot Work if Both Partners Are Smart
Comedian and media personality Oga Obinna has said that relationships cannot thrive if both partners are too smart.
According to him, love and marriage demand tolerance, compromise and, at times, one partner playing the role of “fala,” a slang term used to describe someone acting less assertive or less clever than they actually are.
Speaking on his Instagram account on a reel on Friday, September 19, 2025, Obinna said he agreed with content creator Chebet Rono’s earlier remarks that in every relationship, one person has to make more sacrifices than the other.
He explained that marriages are sustained not by equal dominance or constant displays of intelligence, but by a balance in which one partner chooses to yield for the sake of peace.
His take on love and relationships
Obinna argued that if both partners remain firm, overly critical, or unwilling to bend, the relationship is destined to fail.
“For marriage to work, moja wenu lazima akue fala. Marriage cannot work if you are both intelligent. For love to work, it needs a lot of tolerance and understanding.
“That is what works most of the time if you are in a marriage situation,” he said.
The comedian further explained that love is rarely balanced in equal measure, and in most cases, one person invests more emotionally than the other. “It’s the same way with love. One has to love the other more. Hatuwezi pendana the same. Kwa mapenzi lazima ujifanye fala. Akiwa mwerevu pia, haitawork,” he added.
Obinna’s remarks underline a traditional yet controversial perspective on relationships — the idea that compromise is often uneven and that survival of marriage depends on one partner being more flexible.
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He insisted that tolerance and the ability to overlook small conflicts are the hidden pillars of long-lasting relationships.
While not prescribing who between the man and the woman should play this role, Obinna maintained that someone in the relationship must be willing to soften their stance.
He linked this approach to building stronger emotional bonds, where peace is prioritised over winning arguments.
His perspective, though provocative, highlights the delicate balance couples must navigate in maintaining lasting relationships.
